10 Things Successful People Never Do Again

We all make mistakes but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.

Dr. Henry Cloud

“Never go back.” What does that mean? From observations of successful people, clinical psychologist and author of Never Go Back: 10 Things You'll Never Do Again (Howard Books, June 2014), Dr. Henry Cloud has discovered certain “awakenings” that people have—in life and in business—that once they have them, they never go back to the old way of doing things. And when that happens, they are never the same. In short, they got it.

“Years ago, a bad business decision of mine led to an interesting discussion with my mentor,” Dr. Cloud says. “I had learned a valuable lesson the hard way, and he reassured me: ‘The good thing is once you learn that lesson, you never go back. You never do it again.’

“I wondered, what are the key awakenings that successful people go through that forever change how they do things, which propel them to succeed in business, relationships, and life? I began to study these awakenings, researching them over the years.”

Although life and business have many lessons to teach us, Dr. Cloud observed 10 “doorways” of learning that high performers go through, never to return again.

Successful people never again…

1. Return to what hasn’t worked. Whether a job, or a broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we should never go back to the same thing, expecting different results, without something being different.

2. Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not. In everything we do, we have to ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this? Am I suited for it? Does it fit me? Is it sustainable?” If the answer is no to any of these questions, you better have a very good reason to proceed.

3. Try to change another person. When you realize that you cannot force someone into doing something, you give him or her freedom and allow them to experience the consequences. In doing so, you find your own freedom as well.

4. Believe they can please everyone. Once you get that it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live purposefully, trying to please the right people.

5. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit. Once successful people know they want something that requires a painful, time-limited step, they do not mind the painful step because it gets them to a long-term benefit. Living out this principle is one of the most fundamental differences between successful and unsuccessful people, both personally and professionally.

6. Trust someone or something that appears flawless. It’s natural for us to be drawn to things and people that appear "incredible." We love excellence and should always be looking for it. We should pursue people who are great at what they do, employees who are high performers, dates who are exceptional people, friends who have stellar character, and companies that excel. But when someone or something looks too good to be true, he, she, or it is. The world is imperfect. Period. No one and no thing is without flaw, and if they appear that way, hit pause.

7. Take their eyes off the big picture. We function better emotionally and perform better in our lives when we can see the big picture. For successful people, no one event is ever the whole story. Winners remember that – each and every day.

8. Neglect to do due diligence. No matter how good something looks on the outside, it is only by taking a deeper, diligent, and honest look that we will find out what we truly need to know: the reality that we owe ourselves.

9. Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves. One of the biggest differences between successful people and others is that in love and in life, in relationships and in business, successful people always ask themselves, what part am I playing in this situation? Said another way, they do not see themselves only as victims, even when they are.

10. Forget that their inner life determines their outer success. The good life sometimes has little to do with outside circumstances. We are happy and fulfilled mostly by who we are on the inside. Research validates that. And our internal lives largely contribute to producing many of our external circumstances.

And, the converse is true: people who are still trying to find success in various areas of life can almost always point to one or more of these patterns as a reason they are repeating the same mistakes.

Everyone makes mistakes…even the most successful people out there. But, what achievers do better than others is recognize the patterns that are causing those mistakes and never repeat them again. In short, they learn from pain—their own and the pain of others.

A good thing to remember is this: pain is unavoidable, but repeating the same pain twice, when we could choose to learn and do something different, is certainly avoidable. I like to say, “we don’t need new ways to fail….the old ones are working just fine!” Our task, in business and in life, is to observe what they are, and never go back to doing them again.

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Need Money Now? 3 Steps to Greater Wealth Today

Everyone wants to be a millionaire. Our society practically dreams a collective dream of each of our millions. It's what keeps us going in our day-to-day routine- wishing and hoping for that special day of riches. We have even had game shows surrounding the topic. If you need more money now there are ways to get there, but you have to be willing to take the steps.
Money and you are a vibration away. You only ever have as much money as you need. You only ever have as much money as you resonate with in any given moment. If you don't have the correct mindset to be a millionaire you will never be one. Let's get you closer by beginning with these action steps to changing your vibration.
The first thing that needs to be done in order to change your overall vibration is to change your mind. If you are still hanging on to old beliefs about money, this is one reason that you are currently not in alignment with the millions you desire.


Step 1: Create a mindset that vibrates with your desired money
If you spent your entire childhood and perhaps adult life in a state of lack or money deficit it might be hard to pull yourself out of the thinking that created that. Many will state that their poverty is not their fault. While this is certainly not a space to place blame, you need to take responsibility starting now for your own wealth mindset. Whatever happened in the past, or even as recent is yesterday has to be over with starting now.
Whatever your parents and those around you taught you about money up to this point is not working. If your pockets are filled with nothing but lint and your bank accounts have a zero balance, you have not yet adopted the right mindset about money. If all you continually have are dreams about more money, the time to start thinking differently is today.
Begin by examining how you actually think and feel about money overall. You might initially exclaim that you love money, money is great and that you see no problems, but there is something standing in the way and we must find the obstacles. Do yourself the favor of sitting with yourself for minutes at a time or even hours at a time to explore your own thoughts surrounding money beliefs that got you to where you are now.

You might discover something as simple as thinking nasty thoughts about a seemingly rich person who cut you off in traffic with their Mercedes, or someone walking by wearing the clothing and jewelry you wish you could, or someone who lives or vacations in the places that you only daydream about. Are you jealous of those who have more and do you carry this jealousy around even if only from time-to-time?
Any thoughts that you have that are counter to the vibration that you need to be at to have the money that you want, will sabotage you over and over again. Begin by changing your thoughts, even if slowly. If you find resistance in changing a thought, try to do something that Abraham-Hicks has suggested and "reach for the next best thought/feeling." If you can place your thought to the next better level, it will help you get to the next step and the next. Eventually you will vibrate at a better place and alter your setpoint for prosperity.


Step 2: Change your prosperity setpoint
What do I mean by money 'setpoint'? You can think of this setpoint as the state that you are at at any given time. Say for instance right now your money setpoint might be relatively low and you find yourself just scraping by to pay your bills or somehow always slightly behind in a money deficit. You are vibrating in that lacking space in all ways. You might have a thought or two that gives you a quick windfall of cash here and there, but you struggle to get to that level consistently.
To get to a better level and stay there, you must change your prosperity setpoint. In doing the exercises to change your mindset, you will begin clearing away old patterns that have held you where you are now. You will begin to take steps to vibrating in a way that gets you to other levels of income and prosperity. To stay there on a regular basis and to stay there permanently, you must adopt these new thoughts as total and complete beliefs.
You are establishing a total, new belief system about money and thinking differently about prosperity. It's literally what Napoleon Hill said as the title of his book "Think and Grow Rich". As you think better, you will be better. What you think becomes what you are; it all becomes your reality. So change your consistent thought patterns and you will change the prosperity setpoint of your life.


Step 3: Have actual plans to deliver and distribute higher wealth
If prosperity has limited ways of getting to you and also limited ways of flowing through you, you will most certainly limit your wealth in life. If you predetermine that your job is your one and only source of income you will nearly stifle all wealth that could come to you. If your only thoughts are constantly focusing on getting that raise or getting the next better job as a means to wealth- you will chase wealth forever and never get there.
The same goes for seeing your retirement nest egg as the means to being wealthy. People's end of life medical expenses eat up most, if not all, of their retirement egg and many of us turn away from this fact not wanting to face the inevitable. Don't rely on your retirement investments or your home as the total 'wealth' of your future. Likewise having constant dreams about winning the lottery as your 'way out' is just as ludicrous to gamble on. Yes, you can and should certainly save for retirement and pay off your home mortgage and can dream of lottery winnings, but none of them should exclusively be your way to wealth since in reality, none of them are.

The truest way to wealth is to have multiple streams of income. This might mean anything from extra freelance work, a part-time business to your own entrepreneurial venture, leaving your day job, writing eBooks, profitable investments outside of retirement investing, selling online products, and yes, even winning some lottery winnings, etc. The possibilities of ways of gaining income streams are infinite and only limited to your own thinking. Open up your mind. Remember, think it and be it. If you think your income can come from unlimited ways, it will begin to do so. The infinite stream of possibilities will begin to flow freely for you when you change.
In the same regard money likes to flow. Just as you picture money flowing to you, you should also see yourself as part of the plan for money to flow through. Perhaps along with these unlimited streams of other income you also have plenty of money to pass along to charities, to people that you employ, and any other projects that you deem worthy. It becomes a way for money to flow in and out in a positive way and you become one with the overall stream of wealth. Life becomes as if standing in the middle of a river of money and abundance.
So in summary now you know that you need to begin your wealth-building by first changing your mind and eliminating old money beliefs. Next, you must change the new thoughts into absolute beliefs to vibrate with the level of wealth that you desire. Lastly, you must have real ways for money to flow into your life and also to be passed along into the world's money stream. Having a real plan gives money a new space in your life to flow to and from. See your wealth change as you put into practice this new way of living in this totally new mindset and vibration.


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Andrea Mucci is a Usui Reiki Practitioner (III/Master level) specializing in distance healing work, intuitive life coaching and Energy Intervention (™). Contact her at FreedomReiki.com

Jim Rohn: The Why behind Personal Development!

Always Invest In Yourself First

The best investment anyone can make, if not the only one that will directly make the most impact in your life, is to invest in yourself. This is a key to success if you want to achieve any type of goal in your life, business, career, or anything concerning your life. Too many people invest in so many other things but always forget to invest in themselves which support the premise that there are only a few who are truly content in their lives.
It is not too late to make a positive change in life since there are a few easy things you can do to invest in yourself today. One quick action step is go and get some exercise. Go for a brisk walk, take the stairs, or jog for lunch. You will feel better, increase your productivity and energy levels, and reduce stress. Another simple and worthwhile thing you can do is pick a more nutritious lunch rather than going for that greasy burger. Your body is your investment so put junk bonds in it and watch that investment tank or go for the highly rated nutritious foods and watch your investment flourish. In life, like your body, what you put in is what you get out.

Reading a book is a good investment but if you want to make it a better investment don't just read the book, you will be better off studying the book. Study one hour a day and in a few years you could be the top expert of the subject matter you're reading. One more thing is to learn something new each day because at the end of the year you would have learned 365 new things. No matter how little you might think doing something to improve yourself might be it will all add up in the big picture. A good analogy is to reference the principle of compound interest. Constant savings through time, no matter how small the amount, will increase over the years. Obviously, the more you are able to save or invest will yield even larger returns.

The key to success in anything is just start doing it now and keep doing it because it will develop into a good successful habit. Remember, it is never to late to start investing in yourself. The sooner you start and keep doing it will translate into amazing things happening for you.

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Your Destiny is Shaped by Your Confidence

How many times have you heard people say that to succeed in life you need to have confidence in your own ability? Nothing in life is difficult if you know how to believe in yourself in any situation. Most people have this misconception that confidence is something that is either there or not. It is a natural ability that can’t be inculcated but this is not true. Believing in yourself against all odds is an art. 

Everything is controlled and perceived by the mind and if you can train your mind to feel confident, it will always remain like it. The most important thing that defines confidence in an individual is his/her self image. Self esteem plays a crucial role in determining the attitude of an individual towards a situation. It is generally observed that people, who consistently belittle themselves, tend to suffer from lack of confidence. 

They are always pessimistic in their view point and are defensive in their approach. This is why it is imperative that people suffering from lack of confidence must take the necessary steps to build up their self esteem. An improved outlook towards life will always bring about opportunities that are rewarding and prosperous. People with high levels of confidence are always challenging themselves and are never bothered by any situation in their lives. The best is that they are not worried about what others are thinking of them and are always focussed on the task in hand. This is what high self esteem can bring you:

• You feel confident about yourself and are willing to try and test new things

• High confidence means high courage, you will never back away from situations that are testing or tough. 

• You will become more aware about your personality and perceptions and will always be able to make better decisions both personally and professionally. 

• You are always in control of your life; your decisions are not influenced by any external factors or influences. 

High self esteem and confidence are virtues that can be enhanced in individuals at any age. The most easiest and effective way to build confidence and self esteem is self love. Nothing beats self love. No matter what your current circumstance is, you need to love yourself for who you are. If you have a good image of yourself in your own eyes, you will always be in control of your actions. You will trust your judgement and will always feel good about your life. 

To love yourself, you first need to release all the negative notions or beliefs you may have about your personality. You need to start doing things you are uncomfortable with. You need to take more control of your life. The potential in a person is nothing without self esteem or confidence. Your talent needs the support of your confidence to shine on any platform. People are always bound to react in a defensive mode, when the chips are down, but how they emerge from that given situation depends entirely upon the level of their confidence. So be confident and live your life to the full.

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4 Easy Ways to Change Your Paradigm

Dear friend, being aware of the ongoing changes in every aspect of our lives has become an important task for our survival and our continued well being. 

We see companies and organizations collapse because they have not been able to change their ways of thinking and behaving. Individuals experience frustration when time is not spent anticipating changes and responding to the need for change.

We have seen more changes in the last decade than in the previous one hundred years. It is this rapid change that heightens our anxieties.

Change is infinite and we must always expect fluctuations when dealing with what we own. We must also expect changes in our loved ones, jobs and positions in life.

We evolve from child to parent, dependent to independent and sometimes back to dependent. It therefore would be in our best interest to flow with these moves and re-arrangements in life. This will require a paradigm shift.

The Paradigm Shift

A paradigm, in a general sense is the way we see the world – not in terms of our visual sight, but in terms of perceiving, understanding and interpreting.

If we want to make relatively minor changes in our lives, we can, perhaps, appropriately focus on our attitudes and behaviors. But, if we want to make significant change, we need to work on our basic paradigms.

There is always another way of looking at any situation or challenge that is presented to us. What you see is what you get.

Paradigms
A simple way to look at paradigms is to see them as maps. Each of us has many, many maps in our head which can be divided into two main categories. Maps of the way things are, and maps of the way things should be. We interpret everything we experience through these mental maps.

We seldom question their accuracy; we’re usually unaware that we have them. We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. Our attitudes and behaviors grow out of these assumptions. 

People all over the world seem to believe that other people see life the same way they do, or at least, they should. To try to change our attitudes and behaviors does very little good in the long run, if we fail to examine the basic paradigms from which those attitudes and behaviors flow.

Here are four ways which will help you through the change process:

1.Clearing clutter and chaos from around (recycling, donating, selling)

2.Getting in touch with who you are in a safe environment (sharing & expressing who you are right now)

3.Choose to do things that are outside your normal routine (be spontaneous, flexible, outrageous)

4.Reading outside your current frame of reference (educational programs, movies, seeing, thinking) 

The more aware we are of our basic paradigms, maps or assumptions, and the extent to which we have been influenced by our experiences, the more we can take responsibility for those paradigms, examine them, listen to others and be open to their perceptions, thereby getting a larger picture and a far more objective view.

Until next time, make this a week one in which you are living your life to the fullest.

Article source - Nigel  St.Hill http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/4-easy-ways-to-change-your-paradigm

Learn To Embrace Yourself

Learn to do it... like your own company. It's really great to have others around but that's not always possible. And if it's not, then why be sad and miserable about it?

Step out... on your own. What do you like to do? Would you like to go to a movie or a museum? Would you like to learn to do something, say, for example, learning a second language?

Think about the things you like to do and then make a pact with yourself to do them. Want to see that movie? Then get up, get dressed and go. You certainly don't need anyone else to go with you... there's no talking allowed anyway.

Want to take a class? Then get online and just type in the kind of class you want and see what comes up... and then sign up!

Doing things by yourself helps build your confidence and feel better about yourself. And you never know who you might meet along the way- perhaps a new friend to enjoy doing new things with too!

The bottom line here is that things won't change for you until you change the way you think. Sitting in a chair and staring at the wall won't bring the movie to you or the class to you. But if you open the door and step out, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at what could come your way.

Do it today. Get up, and try something different. Just try it. Take that first step. And after you do that, you'll find the rest of the "stepping" comes a lot easier!

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